​Discover How To Divorce

​​​Plan For & Understand the Most Important ​Decision of Your Life

​​​In​ 10 hours, you'll learn ALL about the divorce process and options ​so that you can make the best long-term decisions for yourself and your kids.    All the material is online - available to watch whenever and wherever you like.

Divorce ​WITHOUT screwing up your kids, losing your mind, and blowing all your money



What You Get Inside The Divorce Summit:

​The Divorce Summit is 10 hours of webinars and interviews that detail the ​entire divorce process​ from planning to finalizing - including all the financial decisions, custody & parenting issues, and different divorce styles (mediations, collaborative, standard dueling attorneys).  

​After viewing these segments, you will know exactly what your next steps are.  Not only that, you'll know how to save time, resources, and life energy with your newfound plan.  

The sessions are hosted by:​​​

3 Divorce Attorneys who cover all three types of divorce process: litigated, mediated, and collaborative.  You'll know which process will fit your family and how to identify the best pros.

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2 Financial Advisers who talk all about the money side of divorce.  If marriage is about love, divorce is about money. Financial advisers can help you craft a financial settlement and plan that works for years after your divorce.  You don't need to be a millionaire to benefit from the plans and reports they generate.  

1 Parenting Coach who will lay out what you need to consider in creating a co-parenting plan and attitude that will help your kids thrive.

1 High Conflict Specialist who covers how to divorce and co-parent with a difficult ex.  This session is super valuable for everyone, because he will cover how to reduce conflict across the board.  And as any divorce pro will tell you, "Conflict costs.  Money.  Time.  Life-energy."  

1 Psychologist who gives specific strategies to help your kids become part of the 75% who thrive after divorce, vs. the 25% who don't.  

And several other renowned authors and teachers who cover the gamut of divorce and post-divorce issues.  

​What Topics & Questions Get Answered:

What is the Divorce Process?  What are ​Your Legal Options?

Learn from divorce lawyers, mediators, and coaches on what the divorce process is and how to manage it. 

  • ​Which divorce process is right for you:  mediation, collaborative, litigated?  Get an in depth understanding of each and how to hire the best professionals.
  •  ​What ​can you plan for that will help make the process easier and less costly?
  • ​How do you find a good mediator or divorce lawyer?
  • ​How to prepare for divorce ​& life after? 
  • How can you divorce without spending all your money?
  • ​What is the first phone call you need to make?  Where do you start?

​What is a fair asset split?  How will ​you survive financially?

​Walk through the money side of the divorce process:  from planning through negotiations and beyond.  ​    

  • ​How ​do you pick the assets in the split?
  • ​What should you negotiate?
  • ​How will you survive in the next 2, 5, 10+ years?
  • ​What about child support and alimony?  
  • ​How do you protect yourself from a massive decrease in lifestyle & wealth?

How do ​You ​tell ​​Your kids? How do ​You do what's best for ​​Your kids?

​Mediators, parenting coaches, and psychologists weigh in on addressing the best ways to keep kids (INCLUDING ADULT KIDS) healthy, happy, and resilient in the face of divorce.    

  • How do you tell the kids?
  • What is the best way to parent after divorce?
  • How do you manage different households and perspectives?
  • ​How do you best protect your kids?
  • ​How do you  help them create a new identity?

​​How do​ you get a better and happier life after divorce?  ​How do you get over ​it?

​Discover the winding and complicated road to life after divorce.    

  • ​How do you move on with financial security and inner joy?
  • ​How do you manage your own complicated emotions?
  • ​What are the steps that you can take to move on happily and successfully?
  • ​How do I date again?
  • ​How will I ​get past the loneliness and fear?

Our Renowned & Trusted Presenters:

​How To Divorce​ Successfully


Karen Bonnell
Karen Bonnell, MS

​The Big Picture on ​​Divorce and ​​​the Kids


​Co-Parenting:  How To Do It Well, Even When You Don't Think You Can

While the media and some celebrities paint the picture of co-parenting after divorce as only joy, the fact of the matter is that co-parenting can be extremely challenging. Why?  Because you need to check a good amount of you:  your emotions, your thoughts, your.... at the door.


In this session, author and parenting coach Karen Bonnell, deep dives into and what co-parenting actually looks like in the face of divorce emotions and logistics.  You will discover essential strategies in dealing with conflict, managing transitions between homes, crafting a separation-story that works, and processing your own grief or joy, as well as that of your kids. 


Co-parenting is not easy.  It demands another level of interacting with your ex that can be challenging, confounding, and stressful.  But with a solid plan, you and your kids can thrive in your new family structure.


Read More About ​​​Karen ​

Susan Elliott, JD M.Ed

​The Big Picture on ​Life After Divorce


​Getting Over the End of Your Marriage and Getting On With Your Amazing Life

Breaking up isn't easy to do.  Whether you are the one initiating or being blindsided by ​divorce​, you're going to experience the emotional ​storm ​of loss, grief, guilt, anger... But what then?  How do you get through the tunnel and into the light? How do ​you get to the core of these feelings in a way that ​you can truly heal?


With her best selling book that sits at Number TWO (second only to the Bible) on Huffpost's "7 Best Books for Getting Over a Breakup," and her nearly perfect Amazon reviews, Susan Elliott delivers ​actionable methods to get over the end of your marriage and get on with your new amazing life. 


This session isn't ​feel-good fluff, but solid guidance.  Susan gets straight to the heart of catalyzing devastation and loss into "the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You."


Read More About ​​Susan ​

Janice Green, ESQ

​The Big Picture on ​​Divorce and ​the Legal Options


​​Collaborative Divorce VS. Litigated Divorce AND Considerations For Divorce in Your 40's and Beyond

Studies have found that the average divorce costs $15,000-25,000.  As the level of conflict and complexity rise, so does the cost.  One of the three divorce approaches is collaborative divorce.  The actual collaborative divorce process is not simply working together​.  It's an established structure ​and contractual agreement ​to work together WITH your respective specialized divorce attorneys.


With 40+ years of experience and her book Divorce After 50: Your Guide to the Unique Legal and Financial Challenges (Nolo, 3rd Ed. 2016), not to mention dozens of media appearances, expert family law attorney Janice Green walks us through the details of collaborative divorce. 


Janice explores, in depth, the value of and differences between a collaborative vs. litigated divorce.  She also offers insights into whether or not the collaborative process is the right fit.  As a bonus, Janice gives an overview of the issues for divorcing after 45, touching on the financial and legal specifics unique to this age group.


Read More About ​​​Janice

​Anastasia Higginbotham

​The Big Picture on Divorce ​and the Kids


​Divorce is the Worst... ​the Kids' Journey

Depending on what you read, divorce does and does not damage our children.  But between the statistics and strategies lies the individual truth of that child.  What is divorce actually like from our children's perspective?


Anastasia Higgenbotham's parents divorced when she was 14, rocking her world.  She had no idea that's where they were headed.   ​​But after the divorce while watching her mom rise up like a phoenix​, Anastasia came to redefine for herself who and what a woman can be in this world.  ​ 


Author and illustrator of the "Ordinary Terrible Things" series, including "Divorce is the Worst," ​Anastasia takes us into the experience of her parent's divorce as a 14 year old.


​Read More About Anastasia

Jeff Landers, CDFA

​The Big Picture on Divorce and ​the Money


​How Divorcing Husbands Hide and Manipulate for Money

7.5 million spouses hide income in their marriages.  Studies have shown that fighting about money increases the likelihood a divorcing spouse will attempt to hide income.  How do you protect yourself?  What red flags should you look out for to even decide if there's something financially fishy going on? 


In this session Jeff Landers, author, divorce financial expert, and regular contributor to Forbes and Huffington Post, reveals how and why divorcing husbands hide money.  He reveals tactics that husbands use to manipulate divorcing wives out of marital assets and the number one thing you can do to safeguard yourself financially.


You don't need to be a billionaire for this session to be valuable.


​Read More About Jeff​

J Anthony Licciardello
J. Anthony Licciardello, CDFA

​The Big Picture on Divorce ​​​and ​​the Money


​The Financially Smart Divorce: 3 Steps to Your Ideal Settlement & Financial Security in Your New Life

Divorce surveys have shown that many people are dissatisfied with their divorce financial settlements.  Why? They didn't have a path to follow and had no financial guidance along the way.


​In this ​session our speaker, author and divorce financial analyst Anthony Licciardello, introduces you to a three-step process that shows you how to prepare a divorce "game plan", make smart financial decisions during negotiations, and create a settlement that is built around what you need most.  You will also learn the essentials of child support, alimony, and dividing assets and debt, and how to reorganize your financial life once your divorce is behind you.


​As part of this course you will receive a free copy of his books "The Financially Smart Divorce" and "Financially Smart Divorce Planner" so you have the tools you need to put the ideas you learn into action and get moving down the path to financial security.


​​Read More About ​Anthony ​

Christina Lynn, CDFA, CEP

​The Big Picture on Divorce ​​​and the ​Money


Is Your Division of Assets Fair?  How to Use Financial Reports to De​cide What You Should Keep and W​hat to Walk Away From

Women, on average, experience a 40% decrease in their household income upon divorce.  And the numbers show that divorced women fare worse than married women as far as accumulation of wealth and retirement assets. 


How does this happen?  If women leave with half the marital assets, how do their wealth and assets decline to such an extent?​


In this session, Christina Lynn CDFA, certified divorce financial analyst, explores the difference between the division of assets and debts as a momentary snapshot versus projected out over 2,5, 10, 25+ years.  Using detailed case studies and financial reports, ​Christina deep dives into ​how to use financial reports in your divorce settlement and future financial plan.


Read More About ​​​Christina ​

Cynthia MacGregor

​The Big Picture on Divorce ​​​and the ​​Kids


​Parenting Through Divorce:  ​The Daily Do's and Dont's

​​​Research continues to uncover the enormous impact the little things that we say to our children have - in positive and negative ways.  Well, compound these effects when divorce is thrown into the mix.  Suddenly little unconscious digs at your ex, seemingly innocuous statements of frustration, or whatever else is said in less-thoughtful moments can and do immensely influence your children's relationship with the other parent, as well as their own identity.

So what phrases should we steer clear of?  And what phrases can we use?  How do we frame events and situations, where we face being the bad guy or throwing the other parent under the bus?  

Author and speaker Cynthia MacGregor walks us through the minefield of seemingly innocuous phrases that have significant negative impacts.  She counters these all-too-common no-nos with neutral statements that enable us to put our kids first.  


Read More About ​​​​Cynthia ​

Dr Joe Nowinski, PhD

​The Big Picture on ​​Divorce and ​the ​Kids


​​The Divorced Child:  Assuring Your Child Thrives During and After Divorce

Annually, over one million new children will experience their parents' divorce or separation.  The good news:  Recent research has concluded that after three years 75% of children of divorce did not differ significantly from their counterparts who were in intact families.  The bad news​:   25% of children of divorce did exhibit signs of significant problems


The question is, "How do you help your child become one of the 75% of kids that are OK?" 


Clinical psychologist Dr. Joseph Nowinski answers this question.  With practical advice backed by research, Dr. Joe will walk you through age-appropriate strategies that address children's developmental needs and challenges.  You'll leave this session with tools to ensure you and your children blossom in the face of divorce.


Read More About ​Dr. Joe ​

Brook Olsen, HHP/SEP

​The Big Picture on Divorce ​​​and ​Conflict


​It Takes Two to Tango, But Only One to End the Dance of High Conflict Divorce and Custody

Divorce doesn't usually bring out the best in anyone.  But what if you are divorcing someone with high conflict personality traits, narcissist or otherwise?  How do you mitigate the damage to protect yourself and your children? 


Brook Olsen, certified parenting educator and founder of the High Conflict Diversion Program, introduces you to an action plan to end the "Dance of High Conflict Divorce and Custody Battles."   However, whether or not you are in a high conflict divorce or not, Brook's strategies for communication and negotiation are certain to make the process significantly less painful and costly.


You will learn to understand and diffuse conflict, ways to protect yourself and your children, how to establish and enforce boundaries, and other valuable tips on structuring your parenting relationship in positive ways that work.


Read More About ​​​​​Brook ​

Belinda Rachman, ESQ

​The Big Picture on Divorce ​​​and the Legal Options


​Mediation:  The Way of the Peaceful Divorce

How does a divorce rack up $25,000+ in legal fees?  Well, first there is the fact that the average attorney bills between $200-$400+/hour.  Then when your two attorneys are working together or speaking, now you've doubled the hourly bill.  ​Finally, when you add in all the filings, appearances, court filed motions and responses, and all the other details like phone calls, emails.... you're lucky to escape with only $25,000.  


And at the end of it all, most cases DO NOT go to trial, but settle well before, either because an agreement is reached or the parties run out of money.


Is there a better way?  Mediation.


In this session attorney and mediator Belinda Etezad Rachman, Esq explains the mediation process and creative options it affords divorcing couples.  You will learn how mediation works and differs from both collaborative and litigated divorce, what you need to do before mediation, who it is best suited for, and how ​you can use it to shape your divorce and new life in ways that court never can.


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​Andrew Root

​The Big Picture on Divorce ​and the Kids


​How the Stories We Tell Make ​Our Kids Whole or Tear ​Them Apart

​How ​we tell the story of ​our li​ves, shapes who ​we are and become.  This self-storytelling is true of our children as well.  When divorce comes into their lives, it can shatter the story of who they are and where they belong.  Andrew Root, describes this as an ontological crisis.  In fact, he ​posits that "nullifying a family through a divorce" can, in our children and ourselves, "call our very existence into question."

What are we to do?  If divorce is imminent, or necessary, how do we help our children craft positive stories of their new selves?

With great understanding and insights, Andrew Root uses his own parent's divorce as a launching pad to guide us into painting positive stories that build resiliency and identity when divorce comes knocking.


Read More About ​Andrew ​

Jennifer Waite

​The Big Picture on ​​Divorce and ​​Betrayal


​​Marriage Betrayal:  Surviving and Thriving After the Storm

Having a baby changes a relationship.  Ask anyone who has been through it.  But what if you discover the person you thought you married, isn't the person you married?  What if you find strange and suspicious things that your spouse tries to explain away, but your gut continues to scream at you? 


Such is Jennifer Waite's, author of "A Beautiful, Terrible Thing:  A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal," tale.  Happily married with a newborn, Jen's world tumbles down the rabbit hole when she stumbles on an email about her husband's "girlfriend."  This email unravel​s a web of lies and betrayal, propelling Jen into a journey of pain, self-discovery, and triumph.


Jen shares what it was like uncovering her husband's affairs, leaving him to save her sanity, and moving on.


Read More About ​​Jen ​


​If You Tried to Get All This Information On Your Own


This assumes that you are going to be using your paid time for education.  Most professionals will give you a free initial consult of 30 minutes, but you really need to be using that time to figure out if they are the right professional for you VS using them to educate you on the process.   

The Divorce Summit professionals devote their entire sessions to educating you on the divorce process and options.  They are not trying to sell you on their services - which when you do free consultations with professionals on your own, they are ​sizing you up to see if you would be a valuable client (billable hour projections) AND then trying to close the deal on you.  

Of course you are​ free to muddle your way through nighttime online searches and piece all this information together yourself.  I've done that.  It takes hours and hours of life and it's still not necessarily organized so that you can actually retain and learn from it all.  

I did this because I want you to see that the value I came up with is not random.  And you'll notice that it's actually valued at ​nearly $2000, but I chose that number just to be somewhat conservative.

What Element You'd Want to Find Out About Divorce
Average Hourly Rate
​The Divorce Summit
​Value

Financial Adviser (Time Used Educating You)

Average cost of $200/hour

3 Hours and 30 minutes of financial education

$700 

Divorce Attorney (Time Used Educating You)

Average cost of $250/hour

3 Hours of education covering litigated, collaborative, and mediated divorce

$750

Parenting Coach (​Time spent educating You)

Average cost of $150/hour

​1 hour 

$150

Parenting Coach/Therapist (Time spent educating You)

Average cost of $90/hour

3 Hours of education covering ​conflict management and strategies to support your child's well-being

$270

​Total Included in The Divorce Summit

$1870 Value

$1870 Value

​For Only $79.95

The charge will show up as HPWG on your statement for The Summit.  There is no reference to divorce on the statement so that you are protected from anyone finding out that you've purchased this.

If you have any questions, feel free to text or call me (224-259-2540), or email me rachel@singlemommything.com.


Frequently Asked Questions

  • When does the summit start and finish?

The Divorce Summit is free for 36 hours starting at 10am CST May 16 through 10pm CST May 17.  If join with an All Access Pass, you will have lifetime access to the material.  

  • What is an All Access Pass and how much is it?

The All Access Pass is instant and lifetime access to all the summit sessions along with other bonuses.  You will also gain access to future speakers.  

  • What if I become a member with an All Access Pass and decide the course isn't for me?

We'll be happy to issue you a refund within the first 7 days after your purchase date if you're unhappy for any reason.  Just email rachel@singlemommything.com.

  • Will I get access to the full Divorce Summit all at once?

If you purchase an All Access Pass, you will get instant access (well it may take a couple of minutes for the email to arrive) to all the sessions and Bonuses.  ​

If you need help with something related to the summit, please contact rachel@singlemommthing.com


Don't Take My Word For It, Read What Members of The Divorce Summit Have to Say

Rachel provided the foundation to understand how to make divorce work best for my family.  Each of the sessions, even ones I thought wouldn't pertain to me initially, gave me a whole new way to see my way forward.  That was a lesson in itself - if you can shift your perspective on your situation, sometimes the haze will clear.   Thank you!

​Julia J.

​Nashville, TN

​​Every session just hit me in my gut.  It was like a light went on in the dark where I was living.  

I was able to visualize a plan for myself and my kids now - how we can move on.  The process still hurts.  But it was like having a team on my side.  And the information was invaluable.  I didn't have to pay my attorney $325/hour to ask him questions I already knew answers to.

​Bree W.

​Kingston, NY

​I was on the fence about joining The Divorce Summit. My plan was to wait for the free day.  But then my curiosity got the best of me, so I joined.


Wow.  The material ​is so dense that I kn​ow I will watch this again ​if I actually move forwards with my divorce. I'm just thinking about it now.  I'm hoping my husband and I can make some positive changes.  But I'm definitely not afraid now because I know my next steps.  

​Karen L. 

​Crystal Lake, IL

​​I'm in the middle of my divorce.  I didn't know what to do when my husband filed. I was so overwhelmed and panicked.  I've spent so many hours searching online for answers and reading forums... ​  ​When I landed on Rachel's site, I wanted something that could give me an overview and ​explanation that was not just other people's personal opinions - actual professional, lawyers, parenting coaches... advice.

 

So I tried The Divorce Summit.  This is way less expensive than asking my lawyer.  And way better than some anonymous person on a forum answering my 2am questions.  


I feel like Rachel really gets how this process can be just ugly.  And she's helped me see ways that I, just me, can make it better for myself and my kids - and even my ex.  

​Angela S. 

​Santa Clara, CA

$1870 Value

​For Only $79.95

The charge will show up as HPWG on your statement for The Summit.  There is no reference to divorce on the statement so that you are protected from anyone finding out that you've purchased this.

If you have any questions, feel free to text or call me (224-259-2540), or email me rachel@singlemommything.com.

​Hi​! I'm your summit host, Rachel Beck.


All together, I spent nearly 5 years in the family courts.  Two and a half of those were spent post-decree (after my divorce was finalized) uncovering and proving that my ex had transferred his business to his girlfriend in order to shield that income from child support payments.  For nine months, I represented myself, writing my own petition and motions, appearing before the judge against my ex's bombastic attorney, issuing subpoenas... basically keeping my case alive.  

While I won the case, after a 3 month trial, my son and I sacrificed a lot.  I was a wreck ​the entire time - and not available to be the best parent.  I have some regrets.  I'm not sure I'd do it again.  And I want to use that experience to help others avoid the mistakes and pitfalls I encountered.

Stay Strong.  You're Not Alone.  

Read my story and all my redacted court documents at singlemommything.com

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